Since Grandparents move in, we have 4 generations under one roof and so many different things pop out, it makes me confused sometimes. The way I was brought up is respect the elders and take care of younger ones. There is a huge gate between Grandparents and I. Our life styles are totally different, but we live together now, we gonna get used to it.

These days, we are watching a camedy, it brings us back to my childhood. In the camedy, that family likes boy than girl. The woman will receive different treatment depends on the sex of baby. She works like slave when she has the first two babies coz they are girls. When she has baby boy, she can do nothing but takes rest. She doesn't even need to get out of bed on the first month after gave birth. Coz of wrong family prejudice, this marriage gets nowhere but violence. Grandma laughs at this situation, I get back to her that "Aren't you the same?" I get over this issue long time ago. I can't image how I would be today if I didn't go to Grandma Chen (my mom's mom). I could be misanthropic or others. Thanks to Grandma Chen gave me so many opportunities to learn and to know how big the world is. I can't be a frog in a well, I gonna open my eyes and broaden my mind and widen my view.

But somehow, I look at where I am now, I wonder if a son could be better than a daughter? Dad used to say: "When you get married, you are like water splashed on the floor. You are not in Lin's family anymore." I question myself that what would be different with ring on or not? No matter what, I am their daughter, I have their blood in me. I get married, I still have their blood in me. When Dad was in hospital, I was there, a step away, days and nights. His sons were in their own bed with their families. When Mom needs a way out, I am her garbage bin. When she wants to go out, I am her driver and ATM. Now, I take care of Grandpa, feed him and bath him, although he thinks girl is a flop deal. But I don't see any of his sons will do these routine activities. Grandpa is on the stage 2 to 3 on official diagnosis and 5 is for vegetable. He remembers where he is, but can't recognize where he is. He will recognize us, but we need to give him 10 minutes to wake up first. He enjoys our company, but he's inarticulate, so, we need to guess what he says. Granpa is fading, not only in brain, in eyes, also in digestive system. It's sad, but everybody will be on this stage sooner or later. Grandma doesn't like Grandpa take medicine, she won't believe doctor, so we are very strick on this. Grandpa will hide the pills, so I have to check his mouth to be ensure. The medicine is bitter, so Grandpa would like to have a candy afterward, but he has high blood pressure, we have to be careful.

Here is a joke from my 3rd uncle. He won't accept Grandparents in his house, until his retirement - 8 years later, and then we can talk about it. I don't know if Grandparents have this 8 years. For the meanwhile, Grandparents are under our guardianship. Be honest, we love this oppotunity to pay our respect for Granparents' hard work. When Dad was little, Grandparents tried their best to put food on table and let him go on university. Now, Dad can keep Grandparents in his house, let them enjoy life with no cares, let them dally with great grandsons. I hope one day, I can do the same, no matter to my parents or in-laws.

Da, I know you are in Spain with Mags. Enjoy your holiday! Lucky you, get such good deal in last minute. Perhaps, we can go with you next time?!?! I have heard from Dave that this summer weather was aweful, I didn't miss anything.